49In the ancient Greek world human fate was pre-determined and unavoidable. It was decided by the Gods. The Gods gave their human favorites godly powers, took those powers back at a whim, made someone successful only to miserably fail him later on. Humans were all in all tools or toys in the hands of a superpower with no ability to control their own life and its course.
If we jump forward to the present day we will see quite a different mindset taking over. A mindset telling us that each and every one of us is a God in their own universe of being and we can control what happens in that universe and what happens to us. We now understand that action has its consequence and we are the makers of our own success...or doom.
In the last couple of years I've been trying to understand better what sets successful people apart from the rest. While I think this is a constant work in progress in my maybe thousands of different conversations with peers, employees and managers on various topics, under different circumstances and occasions I've noticed one very common trait of winners.
Winners understand perfectly well that for every success or failure the question to the answer "Why?" lies within and not outside – with the "Gods". Winners work with results and feedback to introduce the necessary personal (and why not personality) changes in order to get closer to their goal. Winners don't give up – they change and adapt strategy. Winners work hard – mostly on themselves in order to achieve what they desire. Winners understand that reasons need to be internal as to be controllable and therefore look for answers within.
The other way around is maybe easier – you choose to accept that you win or fail all due to external reasons and there is nothing you can do about it. If it is external – it does not require any effort on your end and you remain "the same" all the time. From a purely psychological point of view – our mind always tries to find the external and uncontrollable factors as an excuse for why something has happened.
Being a winner though requires much more work, effort and discomfort sometimes. Being a winner requires to show personal responsibility, self-reflection and will to change.
So – whose fault is it?
I always choose to answer - "mine".

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