19Wikipedia defines the Stockholm Syndrome as a psychological phenomenon in which hostages express empathy and sympathy and have positive feelings toward their captors, sometimes to the point of defending and identifying with them. These feelings are generally considered irrational in light of the danger or risk endured by the victims, who essentially mistake a lack of abuse from their captors for an act of kindness. One commonly used hypothesis to explain the effect of Stockholm syndrome is based on Freudian theory. It suggests that the bonding is the individual's response to trauma in becoming a victim. Identifying with the aggressor is one way that the ego defends itself. When a victim believes the same values as the aggressor, they cease to be a threat.
Stockholm syndrome can be seen as a form of traumatic bonding, which does not necessarily require a hostage scenario, but which describes strong emotional ties that develop between two persons where one person intermittently harasses, threatens, abuses, or intimidates the other.
Horribly enough, this syndrome easily proliferates in the corporate culture...if you allow it to. Here is the thing – people tend heavily to accept what's been offered to them when they do not have enough experience, maturity or visibility of reality different than the one they inhibit daily.
An arrogant manager with aggressive and brutal attitude unrelentingly infuses fear, distrust and demanding (and receiving) immediate compliance and obedience. There are no common values nor freedom of choices that matter. The single overruling power is the ego-centric will of the corporate bully. People under his supervision become hostages trading off dignity for the pay check, entering survival mode and focusing on just playing not to lose. In order to save the debris of their dismantling self-confidence people assume that the brutality is somehow acceptable and reasonable. Our mirror neurons activate a survival mechanism to form this close bond to the aggressor as a means of self-defence. Own values get substituted and own willpower overridden.
It's not your fault you've ended up with a boss like that but it's entirely a matter of choice to accept it. If you agree with this, you've lost the fight and you've sold yourself cheap. And there's no battle more worthy to fight but for your principles.
Don't be a hostage, be a rebel!
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